Dealing With Disagreements
Not all homeschool families are the same. We come from all walks of life with a WIDE range of beliefs and worldviews. We use different resources. We manage our homes differently. Even our thoughts on what homeschooling should look like day-to-day can go from one extreme to the next. At some point, you may find yourself in a situation where you are defending your beliefs to another homeschooler. How do you navigate through these difficult discussions in a godly manner? Here are three scriptures you should know and remember:
1. “Know this, by beloved brothers; let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger;” James 1:19 Before you go on the defensive, take a second to hear the person out. Many disagreements start when we assume what the other person means. Someone asking you a question may not be an attack on what you’re doing. Another homeschooler making a suggestion to you is not necessarily an assault on your ability to teach your child. There are those who genuinely may not understand your way of doing something. Try to understand the intent behind what you’re hearing.
2. “Let all that you do be done in love.” (1 Corinthians 16:14) As Christians, my wife and I have learned that everything we do, even how we handle opposing views with other homeschoolers, is a reflection of our walk with Christ. We try as best we can to handle all of our disagreements with love. Even when we fail at this, we try to repent quickly and not hold grudges. A side effect of this is that our children get to see that we don’t just talk about love and forgiveness, but we actually live it.
3. “ Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive your inheritance as your reward. You are serving the Lord Christ.” (Colossians 3: 23-24) Remember that ultimately, you are responsible for your home and your children and you alone will answer to the Lord. It is illogical to believe that all homeschoolers hold to the same set of beliefs. At some point, you have to accept that there will be those who will disagree with you. Whether the disagreement can be resolved or not, please know that the well being of your children is the priority. Pray for those who don’t understand you, and move forward with the goals and plans God has given you for your home. Avoid letting a disagreement become a distraction.
Thanks again for reading! Continue to consider the wonderful works of our Savior, even in the midst of disagreements.
Rodney & Sherry